The first word a child usually learns and comprehends is “no.” In almost every language, the word “no” has a negative connotation. It implies that there is dissatisfaction, or in general, a dislike for an idea or an action. However, there are instances when someone does not verbally have to come out and say this word to you, for you to understand that they don’t approve of your behavior or your stance on a matter. In fact, many times we’re looking to hear this word, when someone has already shown us in their actions that they simply don’t agree with us, or what we’re doing. In relationships, someone can show us they don’t care for us by their actions. They don’t have to verbally tell you they don’t like you anymore, its simply implied by their actions. On the job, they don’t have to put it in writing that they no longer need you. They will keep you on the workforce until they find someone more cost effective and just as, if not more efficient than you.
It is extremely vital for you to recognize when an individual, or a business feels that you no longer serve a purpose for them. Otherwise, people will use you until they have found a replacement, and you will be left wondering how someone’s perception of you could change overnight. The signs are always there. We tend to wait around to be verbally addressed and updated on a current situation, and which direction it is headed. You don’t need to hear the word “no” to realize the situation has gone sour and there may be no way to reverse the final outcome. Learn to accept that alliances can end, that relationships can sometimes be irreparable, and that friendships can dissolve. Nothing is certain when you are dealing with other human beings, and it is even more uncertain when dealing with matters of money. Although it is a kind gesture to keep others updated on our feelings, and our business plans, it is not mandatory. Even with signed contracts, people will find a way around being honest and forthcoming.
Acceptance is the key to understanding how to read between the lines. You have to be willing to accept that things will not always end in our favor. Replay previous conversations in your mind, and take into consideration the other person’s body language. Listen to their choice of words, and the tone they use when speaking to you. Watch your spouse, and their close friend’s interactions with you. Verbally, we can say anything to each other and most will take it with a grain of salt. They will listen because there is no other way of getting around it. Unfortunately, most times we don’t want to be the reason for dissatisfaction or disapproval in other individual’s eyes. It’s not that were cowards, many of us just hate to see someone hurt from our own actions or decisions. Protect yourself by remaining open to the possibility that failure is always an option, but bouncing back is mandatory. Learn to accept the word “no” whether it be verbal, or in the form of an action!
